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Thanks for stopping by! Whatever Things Are True covers politics, policy, and parenting in international adoption. Too often, the way we talk about international adoption reminds me of that old fable about The Blind Men and the Elephant – we tend to confuse one small part of the animal for the whole beast. Although I’m the mother of three via international adoption, I try to take a child-centered approach to adoption issues. I hope you’ll stick around and share your thoughts, too.

For More About International Adoption

  • All the Social Orphans
    Suffolk University Law Professor Sara Dillon on International Children's Rights and Social Orphan Policy
  • Center for Adoption Policy
    Center for Adoption Policy provides research, analysis, advice and education to practitioners and the public about current legislation and practices governing ethical domestic and intercountry adoption in the United States, Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa.
  • Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute
    Educates federal policy makers about the need for adoption reform, and coordinates efforts of policy makers and public groups to improve the lives of children.
  • Harvard Law School Child Advocacy Program
    The Child Advocacy Program (CAP) at Harvard Law School is committed to advancing children's interests through facilitating productive interaction between academia and the world of policy and practice, and through training generations of students to contribute in their future careers to law reform and social change.
  • Joint Council on International Children's Services
    Adoption advocacy organization comprised of adoption agencies.

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September 27, 2012

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Sharon

Thanks, everyone, for stopping by to read and comment!

Kim

Thanks! I contemplate this a lot with our adoption blog. I've been so thankful for the help I've received either via comments on my blog or through other honest adoptive blogs. (Not just "We came home. They loved us. We're all happy.") I try to be respectful when I share about big struggles, but I think I need to be more aware. Thanks for reminding me of these important issues.

Kristin

This is wonderful. I love the reminder of the difference between privacy and secrecy. I strongly believe that the bond of adoption is as secure and binding as birthing a child (I am an adoptee, and I have two birthed children), and I think this applies to all parents. Just because you CAN share, doesn't mean you should. A private (not so secret!) group is the perfect place to vent and get feedback. Or a friend. Family member, Clergy member. Spouse. Therapist.

That's not to say it can't be useful to share, but I believe strongly in thinking about your own needs and balancing them with those affected. Am I sharing for myself, or for others? That's a question I think a lot of bloggers would do well to ask and answer honestly.

(Sorry for the jumbled response...I could use an editor myself.)

Kristen

As an adoptive mom I wanted to say thank you. That any parent should respect their child's right to privacy of their life story, as we would also wish for their respect as to our own. It's about respect and honoring them. After all, the old saying holds true, treat others as you would have them treat you. Children are people too and deserve respect.

Jessica

Thanks for posting about this thorny subject. A lot to think about for anyone who writes anything, anywhere--and these days, that includes just about everyone. Great conclusion, too.

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